Over Shabbos I had the privelege of meeting some really stupid and insensitive people.
I was at a kiddush in shul where I met up with quite a few women who were lugging babies like I was.
I never believe it when someone tells me that JB is cute. He's cute by my standards but that doesn't mean that everyone finds him adorable and that doesn't mean that anyone has to go out of their way to say something they don't really believe.
I have seen many ugly babies and have had to say my share of tactful comments, but if I'm not asked, I don't comment on kids I don't find cute.
I thought my theory was something most people understood for themselves and generally, people try to avoid saying things to protective mothers that will get them in trouble.
But this Shabbos I met someone who took the cake. She didn't go out of her way to say my kid was the CUTEST thing since peanut butter and jelly; instead, she made sure to tell me how uattractive she found his fuzzy-almost-bald head.
This was a mother who really had a gorgeous baby. Her kid was the perfect Gerber baby with blue eyes and blonde hair and the sailor outfit with the matching socks and booties and hat and Bugaboo carriage.
She was running around the place asking everyone if her baby wasn't the sweetest thing around.
When I spoke to her she took a look at my baby and said she just couldn't help but stare because she thought his bald head was so odd looking.
I thought she was insane and told her so. Most of the babies in my family are born baldish and to me a baby with a ton of hair is soooo weird.
She said she never saw such a thing and wanted to know if my husband or I had ever been bald. I told her that I had been bald up until I got married.
As soon as she realized I meant my stint with cancer, she told me that despite his bald head JB was MUCH cuter and way more advanced than her child.
I should have JB wear a sticker that says "Be nice to me, my mom had cancer!"
Is it just me or are people really that stupid when it comes to their kids?